Saturday, September 29, 2007

Fall Foilage And A Lesson I Learned...

Fall Foliage And A Lesson I Learned
By Pam Helm

It was the last weekend in October and the fall foliage here in Connecticut was at its peak. Being on staff at the Young Adult Fellowship Bible Study meant also leading the retreats. As we always did twice a year, a group of approx 40 adults between the ages of 20 and 35 piled into cars and drove to Woodstock, CT for a serious "get away" to study God's word and have a bit of fun and fellowship. The weekend weather was picture perfect!

Each morning I woke up earlier then everyone else so that I could have some time alone with God before the daily activities started. My bible studies over the past few weeks seemed to have been based around the fact that God ordains all things and each has a purpose. I have always loved how God seems to tie lessons together me through sermons, quiet times, bible studies and life situations. One of by studies was based on the book of Esther plus I had just returned for a Focus on the Family Women's Conference in Philadelphia, PA called "Renewing the Heart" where the book of Esther was discussed as well. Read Esther 4:12-17

The verse "And who knows but that you have come to royal position for such a time as this?" had been something that I daily pondered. God placed Esther right where she was for a reason, He ordained her to be the queen at that time in order to save a nation.

So picture this... I was sitting by the lake being quiet before the Lord when a leaf caught my eye. I sat and watched it as it floated downwards from the sky. It twisted and turned as it gently descended to the ground. Then I watched another leaf as it tossed and turned and than another and another.

Here is what God revealed to me... God ordained that leaf to fall to the ground at that particular time. Out of all the leaves of the Fall season, He called that specific one to fall at that specific time. Before it was even created, God knew exactly what color it would be and its size and shape. He even knew exactly when it would fall and how many times it would twist, toss and turn... and He knew where it would land. What an amazing thought! Then the wind blew and a bunch of leaves began to fall. All of them where falling at different speeds, with different twists and turns and God knew each one of them. Then I thought of how many Fall seasons I had been apart of – never mind before I was born and after I leave this earth. God ordains them all!

As I sat in ah of this new revelation, God showed me His sense of humor because one leaf landed on my knee. I felt God say to me, Oh Pam, if I know this leaf, if I have ordained it to be here at this time, to be this color, and I know how many tosses and turns it will take and where it will land… how much more do I know the tosses and turns of your life and where you will land. I sat with tears in my eyes at the awesomeness of our Heavenly Father.

Where are you in life? Are you single? Married? Divorced? Widowed? Do you have health problems? Wherever you are in life know God has ordained you to be where you are at this very moment in your life for a reason. He has called you and ordained you to handle the circumstances you are in. He has a purpose and a plan. God knows every intimate detail of your life.
The lesson I learned is that God knows and cares about every twist and turn
and He knows where you and I will land.

God has called you and me “for such a time as this!”

Monday, August 27, 2007

The Glory of God Revealed...

"What is God’s Glory?
God’s glory is manifestation (however suttle or pronounced)
of God’s own goodness - His manifest presence.
Anything done to His Glory is done in such a way
that suggests or reveals Himself alone."
By Beth Moore

Meet my nephew Matt...

"My youth group and I went to West Virginia on a missions trip.
Here is my story about how God showed me His glory.

The youth group pranked our youth leader the night before, and were ready to do it again.
It was about 10:00pm and we had already had dinner, finished our debrief, and were just starting “free time.” Some guys and I headed across the street to the "Hill Billy" - a small convenient store. We each got a XLL Monster (an energy drink) and some airheads (a type of candy). We would need the energy for later. When it became “lights-out,” we got in bed all energized and waited for the time. We were so energized that we couldn't stop talking. About fifteen minutes later, our youth leader knocked on our door and told us that there would be no more pranks that night, because we needed the sleep. We were all bummed out.

There was one problem: we already drank the energy drinks!! Within an hour everyone had fallen a sleep except those who had the energy drink. Since we couldn't go to sleep, we decided to all get on one bed, and read the bible and pray. We did this for about two hours and started really feeling God’s presence! I remember the guy I had visited that day. His name was Wayne. I felt God calling me to visit him again the next day but I still wasn't sure it was God. I needed to make sure I was doing what God wanted and not what I wanted. I prayed and asked "God, if you want me to go to Wayne's house tomorrow, make someone cough right now.” A split second later, two people coughed! I knew it was God! But, I still just wasn't sure. I remembered the passage in the Bible where Gideon tested God by laying out the cloth in the grass. I was about to do something similar so I shared with the other guys what God had already showed me. We started praying together and asked that a train would go by (because we were within ten feet of a train track) so that we would be totally sure it was God who had spoken to me. God has his own timing for things, so it took a while. We were getting tired of praying, and I started to think that maybe those coughs were just a coincidence. Suddenly we heard a horn! A train was coming! I got down off the bunk and walked over to the window and looked out. Sure enough, the train I had prayed for was going by. The train was really long and had hundreds of cars. Thankfully there was a light outside so I could see the train going by. A few minutes later the train was still going by so I prayed to God and asked Him to show me His glory! I remembered that my Aunt had done the same and that God had showed her His glory! Suddenly a certain train car went by. It was like the other train cars, except for one thing... MY NAME WAS SPRAY PAINTED ACROSS IT!!!! ("Matt")

Instantly, I felt God (and as some of my friends recall, I was shaking!) and any doubts I ever had about God were tossed out! I knew he wanted me to go to Wayne's house! I thanked God for showing me His glory and for speaking to me! I was so excited. The next day I went to Wayne's house - with a different type of energy: God's energy! I wasn't able to lead Wayne to God that week, but I was able to bring the subject of God up. In February, when we go again, I'm going to go see him again!"

- Matt Helm

Saturday, July 14, 2007

Pearls...

Here is a draft of a devo I started to prepare for a Young Women's Prayer Breakfast...

Pearls by Pam Helm

Gemstones - They are valuable, rare and one of earth's most beautiful treasures but have you ever thought about how they are created? Let's take a pearl for instance. Pearls are created deep down on the bottom of the ocean inside the shell of an oyster. Think for a moment about the environment the pearl is created in. The ocean floor is dark and cold. What about the oyster shell? Is it the type of home you would want? It is not necessary the home I would want to be created it. The exterior of the shell is often discolored, crusty and frankly not very attractive. Despite its environment, the pearl is formed. How? By irritation! The oyster response to an irritation caused by a foreign object. The foreign object can be anything from a parasite, to a tiny piece of sand. Have you ever had a foreign object like a pebble in your shoe? Ouch! Anyway, the foreign object slips into an oyster's shell and begins to rub against the soft inner tissue causing irritation. In response to that irritation, the oyster creates a layer of calcium carbonate around the object producing a hard substance. After several years, the substance eventually develops into one of the world's most beautiful gems - the pearl. One fact particularly interesting is that the greater the irritation is, the more valuable the pearl is.

Like the oyster, Ruth experienced many irritations or trails in her young life. She grieved the death of her father-in-law and husband. She bravely faced the turmoil of change in direction of her life as well as a move to a foreign land with a bitter mother-in-law. When she arrives in the strange land, the trails did not end there... She was immediately thrown into a new working situation among total strangers with new customs. Through all this stress, her faith began to wrap itself around the painful situations.

How many people view themselves (or their living environment) as the ugly oyster shell lying on the bottom of a cold dark ocean floor of life? The make matters worse the compare their crusty exterior to all the beautiful seashells around them.

If you are one of these individuals, be encouraged. Don't view the trails of life as irritating grains of sand to be discarded as quickly as possible. Realize God has them there to create something beautiful in you. James 1:2-4 says "Consider it all joy, my brotheren, when you encounter various trails, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing."

God is using the sands of trails to make you perfect and complete. He's developing pearls of character in your life. An ugly oyster shell is an unlikely place to find a lovely gem, but Isaiah 55:8 says, "For My thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways My ways..." You may see an ugly shell, but God sees the beauty He is creating in you. Are the sands of trails and irritation causing you bitterness right now, or are you willing to allow these trails to change you into a pearl? The Lord wants you to be a Person of Virtue - a costly, beautiful pearl for all to admire. Proverb 31:30 says "Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised."

Monday, July 2, 2007

Peace...



Is 48:18 "If only you had paid attention to my commands, your peace would have been like a river, your righteousness like the waves of the sea."

Phil 4:9 "Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me,or seen in me - put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you."

Over and over, it seems that God has been teaching me that the key to peace has to do with authority - better yet obedience. So many people hate that word obedience because they have to be in submission to something or someone. So many of us have authority issues... Why?

If I only would allow the Prince of Peace to reign over my life, peace either immediately or ultimately results. If I would pay attention and put into practice the things of the Lord, I would live in peace. Peace is not sitting by a quiet pond, but it is living in an attitude of surrender to the Lord. It is knowing His is all He says He is, and He will do all He says He will do in the midst of living in a rushing river of white-water rapids with twists and turns and tons of rocks.

Saturday, June 23, 2007

Meet The Parents

Meet Harvey and Joan Helm. They have been married for 45+ years and the parents of 5 kids and 10 grandchildren. My dad is a retired Industrial Arts Teacher and a Carpenter. My mom... well God broke the mold when He made her.

There are lots of wonderful things I could share but I think one of the most amazing things about my parents is that after being retired for 10+ years. They sold their home, gave most of their earthly "things" away and moved to the Philippians for 2 1/2 years to work with the street kids. My dad established a vocational training school to teach the street children a sellable skill and my mom became "lola" which means grandma to the 75 children in the three homes. Mom did what she does best - love children.

My parents returned to the states in December and are slowing setting up home back in Florida. I am in Florida on business and came down a few days early to spend the weekend with my parents prior to working at a tradeshow. It is wonderful having them back here in the states. I realized while spending time with them that they left apart of themselves in the Philippians. They grew to love all the "street" kids and made deep relationships with many of the Filipino people. In fact we just called the Philippians to talk to Lina (my parents' live in helper) and just finished writting to another dear friend named Bing. It is obvious that my parents enjoy being back home but miss the kids and friends they made there.

It is never too late to heed the call - "Give a man a fish; he will eat for a day. Teach him to fish and he will eat for the rest of his life."

Family photo of our last time together prior to my parents leaving for the field.


Other articles pulished about my parents.

Wednesday, June 20, 2007

When times are tough...


Here's a prayer I say often when times are tough...

Lord, your Word says,
"In everything give thanks
because this is the will of God
in Christ Jesus concerning me."
So while I am in this, I choose
with my will to thank you.
Lord your Word says,
"All things including this work together
for the good to those who love you
and are called according to Your purpose."
You have also said,
"Heaven and earth will pass away
before your Word passes away."
So your Word is truer than anything
I am feeling or experiencing right now.

Friday, June 15, 2007

Ruth Bell Graham


Heaven became a bit brighter this week as the earth lost a Godly lady.

I came across a website that is dedicated to Mrs Graham's life... you can get there by going to http://www.thecove.org/. I came across several quotes that I loved. I wanted to share one of them that spoke directly to my heart.

"I believe that our heavenly Father, our Savior, saved my mother from loneliness because of her daily walk with the Lord Jesus, He was the love of her life." - Ann Graham Lotz

Oh how I pray one day that could be said about me... that I will be so in love with the Lord that He fills my every need and removes all forms of loneliness...

Monday, June 11, 2007

Life is full of choices...

Life is full of choices...
Choices have consequences...
Make the right choices!

This is a quote my niece Kelsey shared with me quite a while back. It speaks volumes and its so true!

We make choices every day and some of our choices have HUGE consequences!

We can choose to react or not to react. To take action or do nothing at all... It is important to make the right choices but what about the choice to do nothing, to be silent or wait for someone else to take the action first because if you actually make a choice it would mean taking a risk, owning the consequences for that action and being vulnerable in the midst of that choice.

It is interesting because I often choose to be silent or to wait for someone else to take the first step. In doing so, I am finding that life keeps going and nothing changes because the choice to do nothing has its own consequence.

Think about your choices and remember they have consequences even if your choice is to do nothing at all. So be sure to make the right choices!

Saturday, May 19, 2007

Why Phil 4:8 as the title to my blog?

I taught a bible study last year on Phil 4:8 based on the book "Loving God With All Your Mind" and believe this is my life goal... I personally believe that if we could learn the discipline of a godly mind all of our "problems" really wouldn't be problems...

Below is my speaking notes for the first day of the study. Warning!!! It is a bit long but I had 45 minutes to teach it... Enjoy if you dare to read it all!

"Weed'em & Reap" by Pam Helm

Have you ever planted a garden? Maybe you have started off by doing a lot of research, reading books upon books and searching the internet on all types of topics regarding gardening from soil content, types of plants and what plants work best in you environment, how to actually plant the seeds – how deep the hole needs to be for the seeds to grow correctly, how much sun and water the plant will need. Maybe you have mapped out the yard on a piece of paper and figured out where you wanted each plant to be located. Once you have done your research and planned out the garden, you are now ready to prepare the site. A lot of time and energy goes into prepare the site and get the soil content just right. You worked hard to clean the site by removing all the twigs, weeds and rocks. You turn the soil, pull out old roots and level the ground. You actually get excited because you finally got to the point of planting the seeds… by the end of the day you have watered the soil gently and you are able to take a step back and reflect on all you have accomplished. As the days and weeks go by, you go out to enjoy fruit of your labor and what do you find? You find weeds grow in its space. Did you ever notice that you don’t need to plant weeds into order for weeds to grow?

It is the same with our thought life… Unhealthy, unbiblical thoughts such as regrets, fears, covetousness, greed, bitterness, hatred, discontentment, and murmuring – they are all as natural to us as weeds are to soil. We do not need to sow thistles, thorns and weeds – they come up naturally enough on there own. It is the same with unhealthy, unbiblical thoughts. We do not need to teach a person to complain, to be discontent and to covet, to be bitter and envious, to fear or to even have regrets. Take a child playing in a nursery room filled with other children. One child is playing with a shinny red ball and another child sees him. What does the child do, he becomes discontent with what he has and he covets after the shinny ball and he goes and tries to takes the shinny red ball away. When he has succeeded – What happens next… the one that now has the ball gets greedy and fears that it will be taken away. Now let’s look at the other child, the one that had the shinny red ball first and has it taken away from him – what does he do? He gets greedy and wants the ball back and when he is unable to get it back, he becomes bitter and discontent. Are either one of those children right? Isn’t it amazing to think that no one taught them to be that way, to complain, to be discontent and to covet, to be bitter and envious, to fear. It doesn’t change as adults… how often are we looking at what others have and want what is theirs… when we get it want we want how often do we try to hold on tight to it and when something is taken away how often do we become bitter and discontent.

Just like a garden which needs to be cultivated, pruned and continually weeded, so do we. Healthy thoughts (which by the way do control our behaviors) are like a garden – if we want to fully enjoy the fruit of a godly mind – a godly mind of contentment, we need cultivate it in our lives. Godly thoughts and contentment will not grow in our lives if we are not actively cultivating, pruning and weeding regrets, fears, covetousness, greed, bitterness, hatred, discontentment and even murmuring from our lives.

Tonight we are going to talk about our minds… we are going to focus on our thought patterns. How often do you stop and think about the thoughts that go through your mind each day. How often do you compare your thoughts to what God’s word says? Each day we have thousands and thousands of thoughts that go through our mind. Wouldn’t you like those thoughts to be pleasing to God?

Let’s take a few minutes to think about what we fill our minds with. For some of us it is dwelling on our pasts, for others it is dwelling on the future, for most it is be discontent with what we have. Let’s think about the regrets in life? How often do we focus on our “if onlys”? If only I had done that or if only that hadn’t have happened, if only he or she would have done this or if only I would have said that… things would be different. Hmmm, how often do we wish we could go back in time and change things. To be able to redo and change something in our past. Ladies: Are those thoughts pleasing to God? Are those thoughts biblical? We will answer that in a little bit…

For some of us it is dwelling on the future – You know, I hate to tell you but we don’t just dwelling – we worry and have crippling fear at times regarding our future. We think… what if this happens or what if this never happens… Crippling fear comes to each of us in a variety of ways.

For example:
· In India and Thailand they have been consumed with the “what if there is another Tsunami. Do you know that there are people that have a hard time not staring out at sea, looking for signs of another wave….
· After September 11 people wouldn’t fly and more recently people since the London attacks a lot of us do not want take the train or subway into the city in fear of “what if it happens here.”
· People in CA are afraid of earthquakes
· Let’s think about our finances – for some we fear the thoughts of what if I get layed off or fired
· Some fear the possibility of having to return to work after years of staying home
· Others it is the what if I have to always work due to money struggles.
· There are those that fear what if I loosing my home or what if the economy collapses…
· When you are in school you fear what if I fail or flunk a exam
· When you graduate you fear what if I can’t find a job or a place to live,
· For some it is the fear of what if I remain single
· Others it is the fear – oh my what if I have to be married to this man for the rest of my life
· For some it is the fear what if he divorces me, or cheats on me again, what if he leaving me for another woman and what if he dies and I become a widow.
· For some it is the fear what if I can’t get pregnant and when you do get pregnant – it is the fear what if the baby isn’t healthy.
· For most of us that is when the fears really begin. As children grow parents fear what if an accident happens, what if someone molested them, what if there is abuse, the raise in crime and violence, what about environmental pollution, and the future of the world.
· For some it is what if I get ill and have to suffering…, the fear of death and dieing.

Fears and worries, worries and fears - Ladies: Are those thoughts pleasing to God? Are those thoughts biblical?

Maybe our thoughts are focused on discontentment… discontentment regarding our husbands, our children or lack of a husband or child, maybe it is our job, our boss, our siblings and parents, maybe it is our home, finances, our appearance. All of these kind of thoughts steals and robs us of our joy – John 10:10 says “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy, I have come that they may have life and have it to the fullest.” Are we living to the fullest?

If we really stop to think about our thoughts – we are often dwelling on thoughts that are not biblical and fall under lies (lies about God and who he says he is, lies about ourselves and who God says we are in Him, and lies about others an who God says they are in Him). The Mind. The mind is a battlefield for most of us in our walks with Christ. Are we acknowledging that we are at war? What can we do to overcome our thoughts? How can we stop these thoughts from robbing us of our joy? How can we stop thinking thoughts that hurt us?

Philippians 4:8-13 “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you. I rejoice greatly in the Lord that at last you have renewed your concern for me. Indeed, you have been concerned, but you had no opportunity to show it. I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength.

Philippians 4:8 however sets the parameter – the boundaries – for where our thoughts should fall

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me – put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.

I have four point that I want us to focus on based on Phil 4:8. The first is

Recognizing the commandment – the commandment is to think of such things… What things are we to think about? We are to think on things that are
True
Noble
Right
Pure
Lovely
Admirable
Excellent and praiseworthy

Let’s take a deeper look at each of those 6 items we are to focus our minds upon but before we do that I want you to do an exercise. Take a few minutes and think about the thoughts you have been dwelling on lately. What are some of the thoughts that have been captivating your mind. List them. Now take a few minutes and answer the following. What does Paul mean when he says whatever is true? What does Paul mean when he says whatever is noble?

Whatever is True – what does it mean to think of things that are true? The Greek word for true is alethes which means unconcealed, genuine, real or true to fact. What is true is what is real – what we know for a fact. Facts based on actual reality or evidence.

Truth about God and who he says he is, truth about ourselves and who God says we are in him and truth about others and who God says they are in him. Those are the truths we are to be dwelling on.

So many times as women we focus on our intuition, we come up with conclusions because we think we know the truth but in reality are our thoughts really based on facts? For example, our husbands or friends seem moody and we ask them if everything is ok. They says there is nothing is wrong but we don’t take them at their words. We read into things and come up with our own conclusions rather than taking them at their word. Do you know that it is up to them to be honest with us – not up to us to determine what is wrong…. How often do we get caught up in our own imagination? A friend gives us a funny look and we assume she is mad but in reality she had an itchy noise. Or we imagine something to happen when in reality that is not the case. For example, I have found myself thinking about what if my mom dies and I have let my mind gone down a path of dwelling on life without her. Dwelling on what ifs – is not dwelling on reality – it is not dwelling on truth.

Phil 4:8 however teaches that our thoughts should “belong to the nature of reality,” what is real – it is a guideline which rules out any fearful dwelling on the future or regrets about the past. Our “What if and If Onlys” are not reality. God says to think of things that are true – what is real….

Whatever is Noble – what does it mean to think of things that are noble? The Greek word is semnos. Noble thoughts that are honest and honorable – to be highly thought of, to be revered for ones character. Thoughts that are good, moral and ethically right. Noble thoughts stay within the boundaries of God’s laws – His 10 commandments. What are His 10 Commandments?
1. You shall have no other God’s before me
2. You shall not make yourselves any carved image – idols
3. You shall not take the name of the Lord in vain
4. Remember the Sabbath day and keep it holy
5. Honor your father and mother
6. You shall not murder
7. You shall not commit adultery
8. You shall not steal
9. You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor
10. You shall not covet your neighbor’s house, wife, servant or lot

Whatever is Right – what does it mean to think of things that are right? The Greek word for right is dikaios which means upright, just, holy, righteous – a way of thinking, feeling and acting that is wholly conformed to the will of God. Right thoughts are thoughts that are submitted to the will of God… His plans, His desire for our lives.

Whatever is pure – The Greek word for pure is hagnos which means thoughts that are chaste, clean, clear. Pure from carnality, pure from every fault, to be immaculate and clean. It is not lusting for things we do not have.

Whatever is lovely – The Greek word for lovely is prosphiles. Lovely thoughts are thoughts that are acceptable and pleasing to God.

Whatever is admirable – the Greek word for admirable is euphemos which means sounding well, uttering words of good report. Good report about God, good report about ourselves and good report about others. How often are our thoughts a good report. Our thoughts need to be based on who God says He is, Who God says I am in Christ, and Who God says other are in Christ. Our “what ifs and if onlys” are they based on good report of God. Are we believing that God is involved with our past and will be involved with our futures? The way to let go of our what if and if onlys is to draw close to God and acknowledge His presences, His power and His love.

In order to do this, we need to turn to God’s word and be reminded of the many promises he offers. God is the God of our past, our present and our futures. What does God say about our past - God says in Phil 3:12 – 14 “Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” We are to forget what is behind… The past is now behind us.

What does God say about our future… Matt 6:34 says “So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” Our” what if” and “if onlys” fail to acknowledge God and therefore is not a good report – it is not thoughts that are admirable.

Whatever is Excellent? The Greek word is arĂȘte which means virtue, praise, a virtuous course of thought, feeling and action, any particular moral excellence

Whatever is praiseworthy? The Greek word is epainos which means a virtuous course of thought, feeling and action of praise, extol honor to God. It’s thoughts that are giving honor and praise to our God.

So, how do we respond? We first Recognizing the commandment to think of such things such things - things that are true, noble, right, pure, lovely and admirable and secondly we

Respond in Obedience – Phil 4:9 says “Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me – put it into practice.” We need to respond in obedience by put what we have learned into practice. This is a discipline… Just like you need to continually go out the garden and pull out those weeds and prune back the branches – we need to continually put it into practice by weeding and pruning our thoughts. How are we to put it into practice? 2 Cor 10:5 says “We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.” Thoughts that are not within the boundaries of God’s word… thoughts that are not true, not noble, not right, not pure, not lovely and not admirable is SIN. Our what ifs, if onlys, fears for the future and regrets in the past is SIN. Do we really believe that? Do we really believe God’s word to be true if so… He calls us to be obedient to him with our thoughts 2 Tim 3:16-17 “All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work.” He gives us his word so that we may be equipped. God’s word speaks directly to our concerns about the past, the present and the future. His word speaks directly to us of God’s constant and unconditional love. Thoughts that are not true or real are mere speculations. They are lofty things raised up against the knowledge of God and they have to be taken captive in order to be obedient to Christ.

Hebrews 10:16 says “This is the covenant that I will make with them after those days, says the Lord: I will put My laws into their hearts and in their minds I will write them.” This is going back to the 10 commandments – He says he will put His laws into our hearts and in our minds he will write them. We need to know God and his word. We have to mediate on his word and let his word be placed into our hearts. Are you allowing God to write his laws in your minds. It is only though knowing God and his word that we can be obedient with our thoughts. Rom 12:2 says “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Rather than being conformed to the world, we need to be transformed by the renewing of the mind. The Greek text uses the present tense which emphasizes a continuous process. The point is that we must continually renew our mind.
What does it mean transformed by the renewing of our minds? First, we need to have the mind of Jesus. In I Corinthians 2:16, it says that “we have the mind of Christ” To have the mind of Christ means to understand the deep things of God. We need to know how to bring every thought into captive obedience. We need to know how to meditate upon the Word of God. As we meditate, Scripture will permeate and renew our mind.

Did you hear Pastor’s sermon on Sunday. How he pulled up a plant and the roots were still lumped like they were when he first planted it? Are we like that plant? Are our roots shallow? Or do our roots grown deep? In order for our roots to grow deep we need to be deep into the word of God… that is the only way we will grow, that is the only way we will be strong when the winds and storms of life go by.

By the way, please know that I do not stand here in front of you and take this lightly. We shouldn’t be quick to teach unless it is a divine calling from God – there is a huge responsibility that comes with teaching. When you teach you are standing in between God and individual. Please know that all I am doing is sharing with you, what God has been teaching me. By no means should you take my word for it… I challenge you to do your own study on your thoughts and what God tells you about having godly mind. With that said – let’s take a few minutes and focus on how we can allow our roots to grown deep into God’s word.

Take a few minutes to go over the handout on meditating on scripture.

We first need to Recognize the commandment to think of such things – things that are true, noble, right, pure, lovely and admirable and secondly we Respond in Obedience by putting into practice and taking every thought captive and as a result the third point is that we will Reap the Benefits.

Recapping the Benefits – What is the benefit? Phil 4:9 says “Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me – put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.” The benefit is Peace. Please note though that the peace of God follows our choice to be obedient to him. Did you get that – the peace of God follows our choice to be obedient to him. It says put it into practice and the peace of God will be with you. When we acknowledge God’s command and take steps to obey it, we will find ourselves living in peace. Thoughts that are untrue and unreal will drain our lives and zap us of energy. But thoughts based on what the bible says about God replaces our fears and doubts with the truths – truths of His love, His wisdom, His mercy, His power, His forgiveness, His healing, His patience and ultimately our victory through Him. I challenge you to take a thought that you have been dwelling on and hold it up to God’s word – find what is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent and praiseworthy about that thought and allow God to transform your mind – peace will come.

I can tell you that I am living proof of living in peace. I am not saying that I have obtained a godly mind 100% of the time. I have struggled for many years with unwholesome, unbiblical thoughts about myself, my past, my present, my future, I have struggled with unbiblical thoughts of God. I struggled with thoughts of suicide and depression and was in tangled with the weeds of an ungodly mind. But I have learned to be obedient to God by taking my thoughts captive and claiming his promises – it is a daily some times hourly and sometimes moment by moment choice to take my thoughts captive and keeping my thoughts within the boundaries of God’s word. I can tell you that there is peace when you trust God with your thoughts.

Paul goes on to say in Phil 4:11 I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances.

These words show us that contentment is not a natural tendency of man – it has to be learned, it has to be cultivate. Do you know what that means to cultivate? Cultivate means = to improve and prepare by plowing, fertilizing, tilling the ground. To loosen or dig, to grow, tend, promote growth, nurture, foster. Do you know that in the beginning Paul did not know how to be content. Paul had to “learn to be content.” Contentment is learned by understanding or increasing one’s knowledge, to learn thru experience and practice what it means to be sufficient, to be enough. He had to increase his understanding / knowledge thru experience and practice. Do you know that by the time Paul said “I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances” he was an old man.

Phil 4:12 “I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.”

Very few of us, if any, have endured worse circumstances than Paul. What makes what Paul says in these verses amazing is that he wrote this to the church at Philippi while he was in prison. In this letter to the church, Paul reminds the reader that he has known hunger and he has known plenty. He has worked hard for the gospel and as a result he has be tortured, received forty lashes several times, been beaten with a rod, he has been stoned, he was shipwrecked three times, he has been thirsty, hungry, cold, naked and imprisoned, he has gone without sleep and he was eventually martyred all because of his faith. Through it all, Paul says that as believers, NO matter what our circumstances are, we can be content. How did Paul learn to be content? It goes back to what I have said before, Paul knew who God was, he knew God’s attributes, he knew God’s promises and believed them to be true.

Contentment is a command of God’s – I Tim 6:6 it says “Godliness with contentment is great gain.” Hebrews 13:5 says “Be content with what you have.”

We first need to Recognize the commandment to think of such things – things that are true, noble, right, pure, lovely and admirable and secondly we Respond in Obedience by putting it into practice and taking every thought captive and as a result the third point is that we will Reap the Benefits. What’s the benefit? The benefit is Peace. “And the God of peace will be with you.”

The fourth point is that we need to Remain in Christ? Phil 4:13 says “I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength.” What does through Christ mean? In order to answer that, let’s look at the following verses…

John 15:4-5 says “Remain in me, and I will remain in you…. I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing.” What this is saying is that we can do all things through him, and apart from Him we can do nothing….

So back to the question - What does it mean “through Christ” or better yet what does it mean “to abiding or remain in Christ”? It has to do with aligning our lives/purposes up with God’s plan for our lives. It means relying on Him for the strength to do what God has called each of us to do. It means infusing our lives with Christ. In gardening, when your graft a branch – you infuse it to the core of the plant. My father’s mom (we called her Nana) lived in Florida and she often grafted cactus. I have some history on grafting however I really didn’t know much about it so I looked up what it meant to graft a plant. Do you know that if you just toss some seeds into the soil it does not guarantee you will have a hearty plant? In order to get a hearty plant gardeners graft the weaker to the stronger plant. Grafting is an ancient skill with all kinds of modern applications. Almost any plant you buy these days in the nursery has been grafted--or infused--with a strong and healthy rootstock. Do you know that it is important that the rootstock be disease-resistant in order to produce a hearty plant. A bud or branch is taken from the weaker plant you want to propagate and it is inserted into the plant that serves as rootstock. In order for the bud to be infused and latch on to get nutrients, the rootstock needs to be cut. I think it is interesting to note that the rootstock has to be disease-resistant – it has to be pure and it has to be cut in order to allow the sap to infuse the bud to the rootstock.

Read Isaiah 53 1:7

God required a perfect, spotless sacrifice for the atonement of our sins and that was Jesus Christ. Jesus grew up like a tender shoot, a root out of dry ground. He was pierced for our transgressions, crushed for our iniquities. Jesus had to shed his blood for the forgiveness of man. It is only through the shed blood (sap) of Jesus that we can be grafted to him. That’s the key to a godly mind – it is only found through Jesus and His shed blood that we can do all things.
If you don’t know Christ
Decide today to surrender your lives him – Godly minds, biblical and wholesome thoughts have to do with the attitude of the heart and will. We need to be willing to see our lives as not our own but as God’s. We need to let him reign in our lives as King.
Direct your thoughts – God commands us to “be content” and not “be content if… “how do we direct our thoughts – we need to be in God’s word and to meditate on His word. We are going to talk about meditation in a moment…

Do you know that the key to a good garden isn’t just weeding even though weeding is important but it also has to do with having GREAT soil. Three necessities are: nitrogen, phosphate and potassium. Nitrogen helps promote root growth. Phosphate helps the growth of leaves. Potassium helps regulates the plants nutrients which in return promotes blossoms. My girlfriend Gayle gets the soil from her garden tested every spring in order to find out what she needs to add to the soil in her garden so that she gets the best growth from her plants. Are we making sure that we have the right soil in order to grow? Are our roots strong through being in God’s word? Are we meditating on his laws day and night? Are we like a tree in Ps 1 that is planted by the streams of water which yield its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither. Are we bearing the fruit that God calls us to in Romans 5:22 which says "The fruit of the spirit is Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness, and Self-Control. Against such things there is no law."

Finally we need to test our soil. Ps 139 23 – 24 says “Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting."

How often do you stop and think about the thoughts that go through your mind each day. Thousands of thoughts go through our mind – wouldn’t you want them to be pleasing to God.

My Testimony

Hi! My name is Pam and I was born and raised in Fairfield, CT. I was born into what many people would call a religious family – I would call it a faith based family. From the time I was born, I was taught that there was a God who created the heaven and the earth and that he sent his one and only Son into the world to die on a cross to save sinner. I describe my early childhood life as simple but adventurous. I enjoyed life in the context of a loving family and good friends. But at some point in our lives, we all struggle with the thoughts of sin and life after living on earth.

The first time that I remember struggling with these emotions was when I was four years old. My family had just return from church and my mom was making dinner. I was hungry and wanted something to eat prior to dinner but my mother had said no. When she had left the kitchen for a few minutes, I climbed up on to the counter and helped myself to some cookies from the cookie jar. Needless to say, I was caught. I remember very vividly my mom using the words that I had disobeyed her and had sinned.

That night my family went to the Sunday evening service and the pastor spoke on Heaven and & Hell. I remember vividly how he talked about Heaven and Hell and how both places where very real and very serious. He shared from Romans 3:10 says “There is no one righteous, not even one” and from Romans 3:23 which says “For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God. Pastor continued to share that there was a price for our sin. He read from Romans 6:23 “For the wages of sin is death.” It was at that very moment that I realized I was a sinner – it may sound simple but disobeying my mom and taking the cookie was sin and I knew it. The result of my sin meant death which also meant that I was going to Hell and I didn’t want that. Pastor however did not stop there – he continued to finish that verse which says “but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” What? What did that mean? Pastor continued by sharing another verse from Romans - Romans 5:8 says “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” It was at that moment that I realized that Christ did actually died on the cross of sinners but not just someone’s sin but for my sin. Even though my sin meant death and eternity in hell, God offered a gift through His son Jesus which meant forgiveness and eternity in heaven. Romans 10:9-10 says “That if you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved.”

That night I said a simple prayer to the Lord. I told him that I was a sinner that I believed in his Son (Jesus Christ) and that he had died on the cross for my sin and I wanted his gift of eternal life" Romans 10:13 says “Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved."

My life since that day has not been necessarily easy – but it has been an exciting journey full of ups and down. I still sin but one thing I can tell you is that I know without a shadow of a doubt that I will be spending eternity in heaven. Will you?

John 3:16-18 says “"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son (which is Jesus Christ), that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because he has not believed in the name of God's one and only Son.

Tuesday, May 1, 2007

Revised Bio



Born and raised in Fairfield, CT Pam grew up in a bible believing Christian home and was saved at the age of 4. She was raised attending Black Rock Church in Fairfield, CT. From a young age, Pam has had a deep love for God and His word. She studied the bible at Word of Life Bible Inst. (1986/1987) and then transferred to Cedarville University where she studied Business Communications & Office Technology (1987-1990). 

Pam has served in many roles within the church including women’s ministry, youth ministry, worship leader, bible studies and Sunday School teacher, care ministries as well as prayer ministries. In her 40s, Pam was called to serve at a startup church (Vox Church) and was part of the leadership team that launched their first location in Bridgeport, CT. It was through Vox Church, that she met her husband. In 2018 at the age 50, Pam married Jeff who was the pastor of discipleship at Trinity Church (EFCA) in Woodbridge, CT. Jeff retired in June 2022, and they are currently attending Vox Church in Branford, CT and enjoying their 7 wonderful grandchildren.

In Pam’s late 20s & early 30s, she started reading biographies of believers such as George Muller, John Westley, Hudson Taylor, DL Moody, Francis and Edith Schaffer, Eric Liddell, Jim Elliot etc.  While reading about their lives, she saw patterns/disciplines displayed that she had never heard the church or Christian organizations speak about. Some of these disciplines included silences, solitude, set hours of prayer etc. She was intrigued. With no guidance or education regarding these disciplines, she started to practice silence & solitude as well as set times of reading & praying with extended silence & solitude retreats. Her goal: Give God her full attention and to be still in His presence. Sometimes, He spoke in profound ways. Other times, there was a sweetness of just being aware of God’s presence. The benefits of having done this over the years are too numerous to list. She knows her Savior intimately and as a result, allowed Him to become her bridegroom.

In many ways, seeing God as her bridegroom is how she walked through her 50 years of singleness. It is also how she walked through some major trials including being single, barren and the death of several close loved ones. Pam hears God and sees God in ways she never knew possible because she has given Him her full attention.

In July 2023, Pam graduated from the Transforming Center (Wheaton, IL) were she studied and practiced Spiritual Formation. Pam’s desire is to show others how to create a platform to be still and know God intimately. Her desire is to be grounded in Scripture and share with others what she has learned over the years through sacred rhythms – as the Center states “reclaim practices and experiences that spiritual seekers down through the ages have used to open themselves to God’s transforming work.” 

God made us for relationship with Him. The Lord Jesus lived, died, and rose to restore us to right relationship with God. His Spirit now dwells within us to live in relationship with God.

My prayer is that you will establish space for God and make time to listen and respond to the Holy Spirit’s voice in your life. To do this takes intentionality. Each and every encounter with God is holy. Our personal and corporate encounters with Him are sacred. If you are willing to open yourself to God’s voice, I guarantee He will, in one way or another, meet you this weekend.

It is with deep affection and great admiration for the greatness God is doing in and through your life as you follow hard after Him - even when no one sees.

“Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen!” Eph 3:20-21